Annual Men's Kink Retreat in California


How old do I need to be to attend GearUp Weekend?

You must be at least 21 years old to attend Gear Up Weekend. We have an open bar all weekend.

Is GearUp Weekend only for men into leather?

No!  The retreat is for all men, including transgender men, who are interested in learning about any kind of BDSM or kink.  The term “leather” is often used as a euphemism for all kinds of radical sex.

What if I’m not sure what kind of kink I’m into?

Then come and find out!  GearUp Weekend is a fantastic place to meet friendly guys who can help introduce you to a wide variety of kink play.  All workshops are structured so that everyone, regardless of skill level, can learn and practice something new.  And the dungeon play space is the perfect place to try out some new things in a safe environment.

How can I get my gear up to the event if I’m riding a motorcycle?

GearUp will provide a truck to transport your gear to and from the event for you.  Gear drop-off and pick-up location and times will be provided when you register.

How can I find a ride to GearUp Weekend?

Our attendees almost never have a problem finding a way to get to and from the retreat. Try posting in the GearUp Weekend Facebook Group with information about where you’ll be and when you’re coming.

How do I get access to the Facebook group?

To join, visit the GearUp Weekend Facebook Group and click “Request to join.”  Please answer the 3 questions we ask to join and one of our moderators will grant you access within a couple days.

What is your refund policy for cancellations?

If you need to cancel your registration, please contact us via email at

Are scholarships or discounts available?

A limited number of scholarships and hardship discounts are available based on need.  For more information, check out the Scholarship page.